Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies. Nelson Mandela
The final proof of greatness lies in being able to endure criticism without resentment. Elbert Hubbard
Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace. Jonathan Lockwood Hule
The elimination diet: remove anger, regret, resentment, guilt, blame, and worry. Then watch your health, and life, improve. Charles Glassman
Forgive those who insult you, attack you, belittle you or take you for granted. But more than this forgive yourself for allowing them to hurt you. Unknown
Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress. Melody Beattie
Do you think peace of mind can be found in holding a grudge…or harboring resentment…or wallowing in thoughts of what could have been? Me neither. Dr. Steven Maraboli
Holding a grudge is like letting someone live rent free in your head. Unknown
Resentment is a mental resistance to, a non-acceptance of, something which has already happened … an emotional rehashing, or re-fighting of some event in the past. You cannot win, because you are attempting to do the impossible–change the past. – Maxwell Maltz
When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free. Catherine Ponder
The heart is like a garden. It can grow compassion or fear, resentment or love. What seeds will you plant there? Jack Kornfield
Resentment or grudges do no harm to the person against whom you hold these feelings but every day and every night of your life, they are eating at you. Norman Vincent Peale
What we don’t recognize is that holding onto resentment is like holding onto your breath. You’ll soon start to suffocate. Deepak Chopra
Everything that is done in this world is done by hope. Martin Luther
Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness. Desmond Tutu
Find the seed at the bottom of your heart and bring forth a flower. Shigenori Kameoka
The darkest hours are just before dawn. English proverb
Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all. Dale Carnegie
However bad life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at. Where there’s life, there’s hope. Stephen Hawking
Where there is no vision, there is no hope. George Washington Carver
In all things it is better to hope than to despair. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence. Helen Keller
Resilience is ability to recover and bounce back from failure or other difficult situation.
Psychologists define resilience as the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress—such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors. As much as resilience involves “bouncing back” from these difficult experiences, it can also involve profound personal growth. This is definition on apa.org. Read more in their article about building resilience.
The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. Nelson Mandela
Resilience is knowing that you are the only one that has the power and the responsibility to pick yourself up. Mary Holloway
When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. Sheryl Sandberg
I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work. Thomas Edison
You can find plenty of articles on internet about methods to use:
In article How to Bounce Back From Failure you can read how to learn from your mistakes, encourage yourself to find a solution that will work and to let failures be your opportunities.
Regret is painful. When you regret your choices or actions you will feel regret, guilt or sorrow. You blame yourself that you could have done things differently.
Regret can help you to change your behaviour in the future. But it can also make you anxious, defeated and hopeless.
Write down on a piece of paper. Or draw it. Express your feeling. Maybe dance it with movement.
And then ask yourself: What can I do to feel better?
Do I want to insist on this feeling? Do I need it?
How would I like to feel instead? What emotion would make me feel better.
If you are sad, would you rather feel hope?
If you feel fear would you like to feel peace?
Move. Do some activity.
Find things you are grateful for. Write them down or think about them. Feel gratefulness. It can be hard to do this while there are so many negative emotions in you. You simply do not feel that you can be grateful in this situation. Dig deeper and you will find something. You can be grateful for everyday things like food, water, job, loved one that is with you, for your life … This will rise your spirit.
You will say that it is easy to give advices to somebody who is not in your shoes. It is true, you are right. Your story in unique. But you are here and reading this article. Your intention is to feel better, not to stay where you are.
If you will practice gratitude, some positivity will come into your life. And this will make space for new opportunities. For new solutions. For hope.
There are other methods that can help. Listen to music. Smile. Talk to others. Write about.
Dive into your feeling. Why is there?
Is it blocking you from activity? Can you move it? There is a quote that everything you want lies on the other side of fear. What is waiting for you on the other side of this emotion. What good is there for you? What you should learn from this experience?
Do not try to control it. Move it. How? With action. Do not lie around and feel sorry about yourself. This will not help. You will not feel better. Find help. Talk to friend or therapist. Read a self-help book or article. Search until you will find something that will help you. There must be a way. Otherwise you will stay paralized in your fear or deep in your sadness.
Don’t deny your feeling. For you, it is real.
Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth. Benjamin Disraeli
Do things that you like. Cook. Read. Draw. Walk. This will bring love in your life. But where to find motivation when you emotionally down? It is desire to change the situation you are in. From this desire will come strength to do something. To change what have to be changed. To do positive things.